Question by : Should I let my daughter go to boarding school?
Okay, so my daughter Amber who’s twelve(well, she will be in October) wants to go to boarding school.
She found this one school she’d really like to go to. Now, we could NOT afford it. But she and my other daughter Marley secretly applied for her to receive a scholarship. The school wrote back and asked Amber to come and be interviewed, as well as take a test. I agreed, since my mother lives in the city the school is in. We spent the weekend at her house and Amber was interviewed and tested. I only let her go because I didn’t think she stood a chance AT ALL, but the school called yesterday(she was tested in June) and said that she’d received one of the three full scholarships.
Amber is so excited. She wants very, very badly to go, and Marley wants her to go, too(in fact, it was Marley’s idea and she filled out the application for Amber to be interviewed). I think Amber would be fine, as she’s very independent and easily makes friends. She isn’t the most popular person in school, but she usually has a little circle of friends.
Even with the scholarship, her uniform and book fees will be very, very expensive. Marley says she doesn’t mind not getting anything for Christmas if she can use Amber’s room as a ballet studio(it already has good floors and is purple, all we’d have to do would be cover one wall with mirror paneling and set up a barre, and Amber says she can sleep in the little room that is basically a storage room at the moment during summers).
I don’t really want Amber to go, though. I’m not sure I want my child raised by strangers and out of my sight. On the other hand, it IS a fantastic school. It’s apparently really good, and it has students from 15 different countries, they have Latin, German, French, Spanish, and Japanese classes, plus classes like Astronomy, and every weekend they go to museums or art galleries or shopping. And they have classes/teams/clubs for every hobby/sport/instrument in existence.
But I don’t want her so far out of my sight. She’s a bit… wild sometimes. She’s already had a boyfriend and once pretended to be going to a friends but went to the mall with him. And while she’s very smart(she’s very gifted in Chemistry) she tends to goof off in class.
And it will be a huge financial strain just to buy books and uniforms. And it seems unfair that Amber gets to go to a huge boarding school, but I couldn’t afford for Marley to go to a Catholic school(and their fee for the whole year is cheaper than the schools book fee!).
Should I let her go? She wants to, and she DID manage to get the scholarship, and that doesn’t happen to just anybody, plus maybe all the structure would help her a bit. I can’t consult my husband about this. I had to kick him out six months ago because his son(19, and a drug user) from a previous marriage who was living with us molested Marley and he refused to believe her, and was very nasty to her(he said she was a lying b**** right to her face).
So… should I let Amber go to school or tell her she has to just keep going to public?
P.S. Yes, I asked this once a few days ago. I didn’t really gat many answers, so I decided to re-post.
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Answer by Proud Auntie
It sounds like a good idea but if you think/know that its going to be really hard for you & your other daughter financially then I’d say no. But if both girls are okay and your okay because of the schooling then yes I’d say let her go.
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